Energy Vampires, “an energy vampire is simply someone who requires a lot of energy to be around” (Cole, 2014). We all have an energy vamp in our life. We can learn various techniques on how to deal with these people but one must also consider this, why do we allow them into our lives? We sometimes realize this when we start to label that vamp as being a worrier, a victimizer, a drama-queen; or when we recognize negative patterns.
I did think that we are completely accustomed to the same routine and somehow constantly attract these vamps into our lives. This is really not about the vamp but more about ourselves. Awareness and acceptance of what we allow into our life. Once we recognize this (before or during the chaos), there are gracious ways to deal with these vamps. This is the solo work everyone must do on their own, I can not tell anyone how to really figure this out.
Maybe the universe really wants me to learn how to co-exist with them? I am reminded about maintaining boundaries and to do this by not taking on the passive-aggressive role but avoid the vamp by graciously declining any interaction.
The bottom line to all this is this is that I need to maintain my own mental health by remaining positive and learning how to deal the all energy vampires. We can not get rid of them but just learn to live with them.
Cole, Terri (2014, October 31). How to Handle Energy Vampires. http://www.positivelypositive.com/2014/10/31/how-to-handle-energy-vampires/
If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand.
In life there will always be times when we are affected by the actions of another person. When this happens, we often receive an apology. More often than not we say, “It’s alright,” or “ It’s okay,” and by saying this we are allowing, accepting, and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When we say “thank you,” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to sit in our feelings rather than ignore them.
There are many of us who feel that it is easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, what it really does is put us into an unending pattern of behavior; since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and time again. By doing this we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person that we accept their request for forgiveness; often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship, however, we need to gently, and with compassion, express our innermost concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breath and calling upon the deepest parts of our spirit, we can usually find the right words to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize ! the consequences of what they have done.
If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And when we react in a way that engenders a greater amount of honesty and candor, we will establish a more positive and empowering way of being and interacting others.
Thank you to the www.dailyom.com for this insightlful article.
The following article came at a profound moment and sharing it will help promote health and happiness.
“…once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the arguement has little to do with the present situation . . . misplaced anger can cause more harm than good . . . truly knowing our reasons for arguing enables us to grow emotionally in way that will affect our whole bing.”
Complete article at http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2011/28435.html
So I read this somewhere and would like to re-quote it. I wish I could credit the creator, but I can’t because frankly, I just do not remember where I found it. So my sincerest apologies in advance, but I want to just forward this motivational and loving message:
Be a risk taker!
Mean what you say!
Have strong conviction!
Live with passion!
Connect with the universe!
Stand for something!
Laugh at yourself!
Get up and restart, it’s ok to do so.
Continue the positve love … and as Jason Mraz states, have “positive articulation.” (…and yet, this I remember?!)
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