LAUGH OUT LOUD…..SERIOUSLY!

Give yourself the permission to be silly and laugh out loud.  Laugh to where your stomach aches in pain, to where you’re doubled over or to where the laughter brings you to happy tears.  LAUGH!

Find that “thing” that can make you laugh.  Not the “thing” that makes you smile, but the stuff that makes you laugh….more then a giggle, but a LAUGH!!!

Our lives can be consumed by daily stress and laughing and being silly can help alleviate the pressure for a healthy second.  It really is the time to seriously laugh out frickin loud!

The balance of being selfish and loving yourself

I read an article that offered me some reminders on how to love myself. This is a PG article and nothing XXX about it. Owen, recommends how to date one self or marry one self. As nerdy or possibly pathetic as this sounds, it got me thinking about something completely different. The article had me thinking about the ability to sit alone or be alone. Being able to be silent and alone, without distractions is very calming.

I will always encourage people to do things solo. It can be empowering and also invigerating. It forces one to be solely responsible for all decisions and actions. Some may say that being alone can appear to be like a recluse but for me, it is about regenerating my energy. I sometimes change plans when I see that I will have an opportunity for alone time.

On the flip side, we are social beings and it’s important to be social with others. Since socializing can depreciate my energy level, I have to allow myself at least one day a week to recoup. It’s important that we remember to take time for ourselves and balancing it with everything else in our lives is crucial.

Owen, Marilyn J. (Aug 20, 2013). Advice to All the Single Ladies. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/08/advice-to-all-the-single-ladies-marilyn-j-owen/

There is a blood-sucking vampire hiding in plain sight.

Energy Vampires, “an energy vampire is simply someone who requires a lot of energy to be around” (Cole, 2014).  We all have an energy vamp in our life.  We can learn various techniques on how to deal with these people but one must also consider this, why do we allow them into our lives?  We sometimes realize this when we start to label that vamp as being a worrier, a victimizer, a drama-queen; or when we recognize negative patterns.  

I did think that we are completely accustomed to the same routine and somehow constantly attract these vamps into our lives.  This is really not about the vamp but more about ourselves.  Awareness and acceptance of what we allow into our life.  Once we recognize this (before or during the chaos), there are gracious ways to deal with these vamps.  This is the solo work everyone must do on their own, I can not tell anyone how to really figure this out.

Maybe the universe really wants me to learn how to co-exist with them?  I am reminded about maintaining boundaries and to do this by not taking on the passive-aggressive role but avoid the vamp by graciously declining any interaction.

The bottom line to all this is this is that I need to maintain my own mental health by remaining positive and learning how to deal the all energy vampires.  We can not get rid of them but just learn to live with them.

 

Cole, Terri (2014, October 31). How to Handle Energy Vampires. http://www.positivelypositive.com/2014/10/31/how-to-handle-energy-vampires/

Does Writing Positively Heave You Up?

There are definitely two sides to this; some may say there is an over saturation of positive and uplifting talk, while others may require and seek out more positive and loving anectdotes. In my opinion, I think more POSITIVE VIBRATIONS is MUCH needed. It is too easy to start down the negative path and after this weeks voting results, people have a tendency to claim “I vote so I will grumble,” and I have to wonder why grumble? I will take a conscious effort to remain positive and maintain a healthy and productive approach on life and my surroundings. I will maintain my social responsibility. It is all about positive changes!

SOCIAL BRIDGE ~ Jean Tubridy connecting with you from Ireland

It’s pretty noticeable that social media is full of positivity in a world that isn’t all sweetness and light.

Sometimes, I find that reading reams of positive stuff makes me feel like I’ve overdosed on chocolate.

However, I know that when I feel down, I tend to use what I call ‘positive’ writing  as a way to haul myself up. This is at the public level, at least. My private journals are probably a lot closer to the real me.

But overall, I find that the very act of writing a positive post tends to lift my mood.

Today is one of those down days, for a variety of reasons, and here’s where I went delving to find much-needed colour and bounce!

… laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life’s not a paragraph
 
And death i think is no parenthesis.
(e.e.cummings)
 

What’s your approach? Do you tell…

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Empowered forgiveness

If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand.

In life there will always be times when we are affected by the actions of another person. When this happens, we often receive an apology. More often than not we say, “It’s alright,” or “ It’s okay,” and by saying this we are allowing, accepting, and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When we say “thank you,” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to sit in our feelings rather than ignore them.

There are many of us who feel that it is easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, what it really does is put us into an unending pattern of behavior; since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and time again. By doing this we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person that we accept their request for forgiveness; often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship, however, we need to gently, and with compassion, express our innermost concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breath and calling upon the deepest parts of our spirit, we can usually find the right words to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize ! the consequences of what they have done.

If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And when we react in a way that engenders a greater amount of honesty and candor, we will establish a more positive and empowering way of being and interacting others.

Thank you to the www.dailyom.com for this insightlful article.

Have positive articulation!

“We have to ask for what we want and be willing to walk away from the good and leave room for the great.  We have to have the courage to not settle and be prepared to fail. It’s only those who risk failure that find success.  Let today be the LAST day you live in ambiguity. Get clear, ask for what you want and then know it’s on it’s way as long as you don’t settle for second best. Let The Uni-verse work for you and work through you by trusting it and asking for what you want. You are worthy of all the greatness; it’s yours to have…” – Mastin Kipp   http://thedailylove.com/clarity-brings-some-pretty-dope-reward-ask-for-it/

It is easy to fall victim to speaking harshly about ourselves and about others.  Have the intention to try to be a better communicator.  Have positive articulation.  Speak from the heart and speak the truth.  “I will not settle because I deserve greatness!”

Love and Gratitude

Scientific proof that positive vibrations really have an impact on the world.

Some have said that positive thoughts do not have any correlation with positive outcomes, while other groups of people have the belief and faith that there is truth to it. I never did the research on my own because I just believed that positive thoughts CAN result in happy and healthy outcomes and now, I have found that science can prove this theory. Unfortunately for me, this discovery of proof comes at a sad time when the world-renowned scientist Dr. Masaru Emoto, the scientist that made the discovery of this proof, has passed away.

“Emoto proved that vibrations within music, written word, spoken word and even silent human thought can change the physical world around us. Positive vibrations and thought patterns caused lifeless distilled water to flower into miraculous water crystals, while negative vibrations and thought patterns actually made the frozen water seem even more dull and lifeless then before. This experiment confirms that our thoughts and words have a profound impact on the physical world” (Vibes, http://www.trueactivist.com).

So the science has risen to support the theory that positive vibrations has tremendous positive outcomes.  Imagine on a collective level, if more of us decide to consciously live this way, the changes that can be done?  Pretty remarkable, right?

In the wake of my very long absence to this blog, I’ve decided to renew my efforts to contribute to the worlds positive vibrations.

 

Vibes, John (2014, Oct. 18). World Renowned Scientist Masaru Emoto Passed Away After a Lifetime of Incredible Accomplishments. http://www.trueactivist.com/world-renowned-scientist-masaru-emoto-passed-away-after-a-lifetime-of-incredible-accomplishments/?utm_source=fb&utm_medium=mam&utm_campaign=mam

Emotional triggers

The following article came at a profound moment and sharing it will help promote health and happiness.

“…once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the arguement has little to do with the present situation . . . misplaced anger can cause more harm than good . . . truly knowing our reasons for arguing enables us to grow emotionally in way that will affect our whole bing.”

Complete article at http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2011/28435.html

It is alright to re-start.

Re-start, it is alright to do it.  Says who?  Says YOU!
“Be a risk taker, mean what you say, have strong conviction, live with passion, connect with the universe, respect yourself, stand for something, laugh at yourself, get up and restart…it’s never too late.”  So be kind to yourself.
Spread the LOVE and GRATITUDE.