Being a gracious host is about accommodating one’s guest; to ensure your guest is comfortable and that their needs are met. For example, if one is providing a place to stay and sleep, then providing clean linens and a quiet place to rest is a priority. Included in this hosting can be providing food and taking the guest out to view and experience the sights. In some cases, the host may also give up their own bed or bedroom for the visiting guest…of course this depends on who the guest is and the size of your home. Sometimes use of the hosts vehicle can also be included in hosting.
On the flip side, there is also a proper way to be a gracious guest. The guest must genuinely be thankful and words are not the only requirement. Bringing the host a small gift is being gracious, regardless of the length of stay. Additionally, the guest should pick up after themselves and not expect the host to act as a maid. For example, keeping ones sleeping quarters tidy or maintaining a clean bathroom is a kind gesture; basically, do not be a slob and a messy person and definitely do not leave your dirty dishes all over the place. A guest can also demonstrate their thankfulness by treating their host to a home cooked meal, purchasing groceries, or ensuring the borrowed car is returned with a full tank of gas (now these are just examples of what a guest can do, do more or be creative; the most important part is making it personal).
On a final note, graciousness is also required when receiving gifts. Receiving gifts without judgement, without expectation, and being genuinely thankful is all part of being gracious. This is the part when we remove our pride and just be thankful.
Being a gracious recipient is all part of being a gracious host and a gracious guest.