Energy Vampires, “an energy vampire is simply someone who requires a lot of energy to be around” (Cole, 2014). We all have an energy vamp in our life. We can learn various techniques on how to deal with these people but one must also consider this, why do we allow them into our lives? We sometimes realize this when we start to label that vamp as being a worrier, a victimizer, a drama-queen; or when we recognize negative patterns.
I did think that we are completely accustomed to the same routine and somehow constantly attract these vamps into our lives. This is really not about the vamp but more about ourselves. Awareness and acceptance of what we allow into our life. Once we recognize this (before or during the chaos), there are gracious ways to deal with these vamps. This is the solo work everyone must do on their own, I can not tell anyone how to really figure this out.
Maybe the universe really wants me to learn how to co-exist with them? I am reminded about maintaining boundaries and to do this by not taking on the passive-aggressive role but avoid the vamp by graciously declining any interaction.
The bottom line to all this is this is that I need to maintain my own mental health by remaining positive and learning how to deal the all energy vampires. We can not get rid of them but just learn to live with them.
Cole, Terri (2014, October 31). How to Handle Energy Vampires. http://www.positivelypositive.com/2014/10/31/how-to-handle-energy-vampires/