Ascending to happiness

“The heart was made to be broken.” – Oscar Wilde

It should really be the brain was made to fuck with our emotions. If only are heart is able to forget or make better decisions. Even when considering it metaphorically, it sends me into a whirlwind of thoughts, it really is THE BRAIN!

I believe that our brain is THE worse muscle that we have due to the memories it keeps. However, there is this idea that one can train our muscles and that muscles have an ability to memorize, I believe it is called muscle memory. If our brain is a muscle and we consider the theory of muscle memory, is it possible to retrain our brain?  Since the concept of traditional physiological muscle memory is the result of consistent motion over a period of time, if the brain experiences the same, will it also endure the muscle memory theory. I read somewhere that to make firm changes or new habits, repetition is required.

According to some of the research by professional psychologists, psychiatrists, and neurologists, it is VERY POSSIBLE to make cognitive changes and ascend into a happier state of mind.  The studies conducted focused on how meditation can change the structure of our brain.

“Although the practice of meditation is associated with a sense of peacefulness and physical relaxation, practitioners have long claimed that meditation also provides cognitive and psychological benefits that persist throughout the day.” Sara Lazar

It appears that by meditating, we can retrain our brain.  The professionals are not clearly suggesting that through meditation, one will become happier, but by meditating, one can increase our well-being.  Reduce the stress and anxiety in our lives will result in an increase of a better quality of life.

It is fascinating to see the brain’s plasticity and that, by practicing meditation, we can play an active role in changing the brain and can increase our well-being and quality of life,” says Britta Hölzel

Apparently, we can begin to ascend in a matter of just 8 WEEKS!  Just 30 minutes a day for 8 weeks, isn’t this just glorious news?  An actual time frame where we can actually see and feel happier.  While this does sound a bit strange, according to some professionals, it is all very possible.

I will attempt to overcome my laziness and create a new habit!  Approximately 30 days to break the habit and 30 more days to reaffirm the new habit = 8 weeks. TIME TO ASCEND!

There is a blood-sucking vampire hiding in plain sight.

Energy Vampires, “an energy vampire is simply someone who requires a lot of energy to be around” (Cole, 2014).  We all have an energy vamp in our life.  We can learn various techniques on how to deal with these people but one must also consider this, why do we allow them into our lives?  We sometimes realize this when we start to label that vamp as being a worrier, a victimizer, a drama-queen; or when we recognize negative patterns.  

I did think that we are completely accustomed to the same routine and somehow constantly attract these vamps into our lives.  This is really not about the vamp but more about ourselves.  Awareness and acceptance of what we allow into our life.  Once we recognize this (before or during the chaos), there are gracious ways to deal with these vamps.  This is the solo work everyone must do on their own, I can not tell anyone how to really figure this out.

Maybe the universe really wants me to learn how to co-exist with them?  I am reminded about maintaining boundaries and to do this by not taking on the passive-aggressive role but avoid the vamp by graciously declining any interaction.

The bottom line to all this is this is that I need to maintain my own mental health by remaining positive and learning how to deal the all energy vampires.  We can not get rid of them but just learn to live with them.

 

Cole, Terri (2014, October 31). How to Handle Energy Vampires. http://www.positivelypositive.com/2014/10/31/how-to-handle-energy-vampires/

Does Writing Positively Heave You Up?

There are definitely two sides to this; some may say there is an over saturation of positive and uplifting talk, while others may require and seek out more positive and loving anectdotes. In my opinion, I think more POSITIVE VIBRATIONS is MUCH needed. It is too easy to start down the negative path and after this weeks voting results, people have a tendency to claim “I vote so I will grumble,” and I have to wonder why grumble? I will take a conscious effort to remain positive and maintain a healthy and productive approach on life and my surroundings. I will maintain my social responsibility. It is all about positive changes!

SOCIAL BRIDGE ~ Jean Tubridy connecting with you from Ireland

It’s pretty noticeable that social media is full of positivity in a world that isn’t all sweetness and light.

Sometimes, I find that reading reams of positive stuff makes me feel like I’ve overdosed on chocolate.

However, I know that when I feel down, I tend to use what I call ‘positive’ writing  as a way to haul myself up. This is at the public level, at least. My private journals are probably a lot closer to the real me.

But overall, I find that the very act of writing a positive post tends to lift my mood.

Today is one of those down days, for a variety of reasons, and here’s where I went delving to find much-needed colour and bounce!

… laugh, leaning back in my arms

for life’s not a paragraph

 

And death i think is no parenthesis.

(e.e.cummings)

 

What’s your approach? Do you tell…

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Empowered forgiveness

If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand.

In life there will always be times when we are affected by the actions of another person. When this happens, we often receive an apology. More often than not we say, “It’s alright,” or “ It’s okay,” and by saying this we are allowing, accepting, and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When we say “thank you,” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to sit in our feelings rather than ignore them.

There are many of us who feel that it is easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, what it really does is put us into an unending pattern of behavior; since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and time again. By doing this we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person that we accept their request for forgiveness; often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship, however, we need to gently, and with compassion, express our innermost concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breath and calling upon the deepest parts of our spirit, we can usually find the right words to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize ! the consequences of what they have done.

If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And when we react in a way that engenders a greater amount of honesty and candor, we will establish a more positive and empowering way of being and interacting others.

Thank you to the www.dailyom.com for this insightlful article.

Scientific proof that positive vibrations really have an impact on the world.

Some have said that positive thoughts do not have any correlation with positive outcomes, while other groups of people have the belief and faith that there is truth to it. I never did the research on my own because I just believed that positive thoughts CAN result in happy and healthy outcomes and now, I have found that science can prove this theory. Unfortunately for me, this discovery of proof comes at a sad time when the world-renowned scientist Dr. Masaru Emoto, the scientist that made the discovery of this proof, has passed away.

“Emoto proved that vibrations within music, written word, spoken word and even silent human thought can change the physical world around us. Positive vibrations and thought patterns caused lifeless distilled water to flower into miraculous water crystals, while negative vibrations and thought patterns actually made the frozen water seem even more dull and lifeless then before. This experiment confirms that our thoughts and words have a profound impact on the physical world” (Vibes, http://www.trueactivist.com).

So the science has risen to support the theory that positive vibrations has tremendous positive outcomes.  Imagine on a collective level, if more of us decide to consciously live this way, the changes that can be done?  Pretty remarkable, right?

In the wake of my very long absence to this blog, I’ve decided to renew my efforts to contribute to the worlds positive vibrations.

 

Vibes, John (2014, Oct. 18). World Renowned Scientist Masaru Emoto Passed Away After a Lifetime of Incredible Accomplishments. http://www.trueactivist.com/world-renowned-scientist-masaru-emoto-passed-away-after-a-lifetime-of-incredible-accomplishments/?utm_source=fb&utm_medium=mam&utm_campaign=mam

Emotional triggers

The following article came at a profound moment and sharing it will help promote health and happiness.

“…once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the arguement has little to do with the present situation . . . misplaced anger can cause more harm than good . . . truly knowing our reasons for arguing enables us to grow emotionally in way that will affect our whole bing.”

Complete article at http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2011/28435.html

Change your thoughts AND bring love into your life <3

You attract everything! If you consistantly have a negative attitutude, you will attract it. Change the negative frequency by changing your thoughts. Positive thoughts and positive articulation is crucial to alter one’s life and live a healthy and loving one.

I AM THE MASTER OF MY THOUGHTS

M is for Mindfulness (via Speaking from the Heart)

This is such an awesome blog that I have to share, yet another, post. Have an awesome day and spread the love and happiness!

Aloha.

Dust motes, ladybugs, lichen… In her book Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility, Dr. Ellen Langer had this to say about mindfulness as it pertains to health: “The simple act of noticing new things—is crucial to our health in several ways. First, when we’re mindless, w … Read More

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Insightful thoughts

My days have been filled with amazing quotes, revelations, affirmations, and insightful thoughts.  So even though I have only reposted/ retweeted another person’s thoughts, I wanted to share them with you too. 

So while I have been known to have my own insightful thoughts, these loving ideas are manifested with the help if others.  So thank you to all those who inspire me!

Much love and respect – the RefinedTita